I came upon this a true story about an elderly gentleman and
a divorced lady who were neighbors. They lived alone. She rarely came out of
her house. The man helped her break out of her cocoon. They began spending time
together and people began making stories about them. The woman became so
despondent that she decided to shift but the man stood by her side and to shut
the people out they got married. For
most of us it might sound as a very strange relationship.
The man had been a widower. His kids had grown and had a
life of their own. He was experienced going through the harsh realities of
life. The lady had been recently divorced and was in a dilemma about who she
was and what was she going to do the rest of her life? Being alone and then a lady she had already been
marginalized. She considered herself the victim of the situation. The answer to the question that what could be
the reason behind their unique relationship is their loneliness. Both have been
deprived thus, found solace in each other. The man cannot predict what lies
ahead but he can certainly be there and make sure that she stands tall against
all odds. He can guide her through his experience; make her used-to of her new
lifestyle yet she’d have to find her own way.
He can provide realism to her unresolved prayers.
They don’t expect much off each other they’re just glad that
they found a companion. The lady considers this man to be a savior in times of
trouble when her own shadow deceived her; he was the one to rescue her from
self destruction. The man considers the lady to be his last beacon of hope.
They help survive each other. According to them their loneliness and mutual
understanding gave rise to love and they were able to make a bold move as they
tied the knot with one another. This
relationship can help both of them to evolve and confront their fears and the
world.
Love is abstract and their can never be any explanations.
According to my opinion love is a process, it breeds, it grows and get better
with time. It isn’t important that one can always be right about it mostly what
we consider ‘love’ is fancy imagination or infatuation.
As history goes ideologies have also been conflicted between
the modern and the age old. The experienced members of the society always claim
that a true relationship should be based on parental acceptance. But I believe
that a foundation of every relationship is love because it covers all aspects
needed between two people.
One thing that should be kept in mind that nothing works one
sided. You have to see that its two
hands that claps rings. Relationship is
constant work so don’t give up and never get exhausted. Human tendencies and their differences will
not make them always agreeable. Resolve your differences and start on a blank
slate. Learn from your experiences whether good or bad. Create a fine balance
and eventually you will get it right as they say that there is always room for
improvement.
Everything begins with a small talk. The more you talk the
more you get comfortable around the person. Don’t be afraid to get into arguments or
fights. Communications should always be platonic. You should be able to confess
anything and everything whether it is being unwilling to quit your job or lack
of satisfaction during intimacy. Do not hesitate. Let’s remember this that one
way or the other you are going to tell it someone so let that someone be that
person whenever in doubt just ask yourself “will it be better if the person
hears from you or from someone else?”
Two bodies’ one soul but it shouldn’t be two bodies
congested and suffocating in one soul. Everyone should get their own share of
appropriate privacy. For example a lawyer and a doctor were arguing who loves
who the most the doctor said that I love you so much that I can get stars for
you so the lawyer replied that if you love me so much that become a lawyer like
me: we can understand that love is giving completeness to each other otherwise
the relationship becomes lopsided but the instance right here is not a
sacrifice rather a step towards a ruined future spent in an asylum. Love should
be nurtured and shared; it shouldn’t become the reason for interference.
There is nothing perfect in this world. One can only aim for
profundity. Spending quality time and actually paying attention to each other
solves half the problem. Relationships never work on fickle and frivolous. You
cannot get by relationships by using hit and try methods. It is a matter of
choice so the decision should lie in your hands. You shouldn’t be influenced by
anyone or anything.
Love is unbiased of everything and anything; it only
commands self-dedication which comes through respect and modesty. It is an
expression and one shouldn’t feel it for the sake of feeling it but accept it
with sensibility and embrace it soulfully for once and for all.
Let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds
of heaven dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let
it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.- Khalil Gibran.
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